Second Marriage Invite Etiquette

You’re so excited to plan your wedding (and you should be), but let’s face it: The rules are a little different the second time around. Make a statement with properly worded invitations that also give a glimpse of your wedding style.

From the bride and groom (first person)
Like most couples getting married for the second time, you can send invites directly from yourselves -- especially since, chances are, you’ll be paying for the event (in which case, you’re also the hosts). Keep the wording simple or preface the date, time, and location with a favorite verse or poem.

Example #1:

Some people touch us for a moment,
and some for a season
…and some remain with us for a
In each other, we have found the
with whom we will spend the rest
of our lives
loving, honoring, and cherishing.

Please join us in celebrating as we exchange vows
on Friday, the fifth of June
two thousand nine
at one o’clock in the afternoon
Saint Martin’s Cathedral
2500 Lake Avenue
Brielle, New Jersey

Example #2:

Please join us as we spend
the first day of our life together
on Sunday, the ninth of August
two thousand nine
at eleven-thirty in the morning
St. Christopher’s Inn
1534 Church Street
Dayton, Ohio

From the bride and groom (third person)
If you’re having a more formal wedding, consider using the third person for your invites. The wording makes it clear you’re the hosts without sounding too casual. You can list your names first, or include them in the middle of the invitation for a more traditional take.

Example #1:

Lisa Valerie Governs
Todd Leonard Sanders
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
on August twenty-ninth
two thousand nine at five o’clock in the afternoon
5785 Cypress Drive
Cypress, Kansas

Example #2:

The honour of your presence is requested
at the marriage of
Catherine Mary Larson
Michael Thomas McGuire
Saturday, the fifth of September
at five o’clock in the evening
Briarwood Country Club
Briarwood, Georgia

From the kids
If your children are old enough to act as hosts of your wedding, the invitations can be sent from them. Just be sure to ask before adding their names to the invite. If they agree to host, list their names with the bride’s children first and the groom’s children second, each arranged in order from oldest to youngest. This can be a great way to show the blending of your families and that your children support your new life together.


Jan Livingston
Serena Leathers
Dan Thomas
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their parents
Susan F. Leathers
Mitchell R. Thomas
on Sunday, the seventeenth day
of May
two thousand nine
at four o’clock in the afternoon
at Wood Falls Club
12 Woodtree Lane
Wood Falls, Indiana

From the bride’s parents
If your parents are paying for the wedding or you’ve asked them to host, it’s proper that they send the invites. This isn’t as common for second marriages, but it isn’t a breach of etiquette either. If you still use your ex-husband’s last name, it’s up to you whether or not to include it on the invite. Our take: Leave it out. This day is about you and your spouse moving forward.


Mr. and Mrs. Ronald S. Governs
request the honour or your
at the marriage of their
Lisa Valerie Governs
John Edward March
on Saturday, the second of May
two thousand nine
at one o’clock in the afternoon
Cedarwood Trail
57 Cedar Trail
Woodland, Texas
By Hannah_Goodman 12/09/2015 12:38:00

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